As human beings, I believe we’re essentially trustworthy beings for ourselves. We long to be our true selves and want to grow in the direction of our health and well-being. Though our mind, heart, body, and spirit give us information that can help us evolve towards this, habits of conditioning get in the way. Without realizing it, we internalize the messages of our culture and world. This biases our perception of reality, creates painful beliefs that limit us, and blocks access to our natural wisdom and inner knowing. Yet, always beyond our conditioning is the intelligence, compassion, stability, and goodness of our true nature. My primary job then, is to help you access your own truth and healing wisdom, understand, and accept yourself, and develop the confidence that who you authentically are is enough.
Although conditioning distorts our views about race, class, ethnicity, and gender, I believe gender may be our deepest bias. Internalizing the misogynistic and sexist messages inherent in patriarchy is a root cause of many serious mental health problems. Women are conditioned to disconnect from their authenticity, negate themselves, and give their power away to others. This creates deep patterns of insecurity, self-loathing, perfectionism, anxiety, and depression. Men are conditioned to disconnect from their emotional selves, curb their relational abilities, and form beliefs that keep them caught in stress, anxiety, and depression.
This book is like having a mindfulness teacher at your side. It is informative and insightful—chock-full of techniques, meditations, and reflections that guide you to the self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-confidence needed to be your authentic self. These are essential tools for all women.
Every so often a book comes along that has the potential to change your life…Unshakeable Confidence reflects the author’s profound understanding of the roots of women’s suffering and provides a wise and practical guide to rediscovering self-love. A pure gem of a book!
Good medicine for tending the heart and uplifting the spirit.
With kind expertise, Mare Chapman teaches mindfulness with an eye toward gender equity, guiding the reader toward more ease, empowerment and freedom. This special book is so needed for women, especially at this time!
Like Brené Brown, Mare Chapman offers inspiring insights on freeing the real ‘you’ who lives deep inside. Her wise words and exercises will give you the strength and courage to become your authentic self, no matter what life has thrown at you. Brilliant!
Unshakeable Confidence illuminates the cultural conditioning that adversely affects nearly all women—in body, mind, and spirit. Its reframing of codependence, learned helplessness, and relationship addiction as “othering” is groundbreaking. And, most importantly, it gives all of us precise instructions for how to come back home to our essential, healthy, confident selves. Every woman needs to know and practice what’s in these pages.
Highly recommended for any woman who feels stuck with insecurity.